When you are faced with a divorce and you have children, it is essential to learn to co-parent with the other parent. Your children depend on this to be secure and healthy individuals. You don’t have to like each other, but it is important to respect each other as parents so that you can raise your children together. It is not always easy, but usually, it can be done. Here are a few tips:
· Be civil to the other parent. You don’t have to hang out or engage in everyday conversation, but try and communicate nicely, when necessary.
· Encourage your children to have a relationship with the other parent. Allow your children to have free access to the other parent. It will help your children and they will thank you for not making them feel like they are in the middle.
· Discuss the other parent in a way that is supportive and/or complimentary. Your children want your approval in everything. Hearing you speak highly of the other parent will give your children a sense of security and allow them to have positive feelings for both parents.
· Try to avoid talking on the telephone. If it is not an emergency situation, limit your communication to e-mail. If you feel yourself getting angry, step away from the computer. Remember that anything you putting in writing could potentially be used against you in future litigation!
However, even if you make every effort to co-parent, it may not work if the other parent doesn’t want it to work. In this case, the Huffington Post has some ideas on how to parent effectively when co-parenting isn’t an option for you.
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